Oh, what a long, twisted, reflective journey it has been to self-love and self-acceptance.
Just like some of you, I have battled my whole life with the never good enough syndrome. I adopted this agreement as a little girl and the automatic tape in my head is deeply ingrained with the message. So ingrained as a matter of fact that I do not even hear it playing most days, but the truth is when I get conscious about my thinking which is creating my feelings it becomes loud and clear. It pains me to admit that it is a deeply rooted belief pattern. On reflection, this belief pattern has served me well, although not healthy thinking, for many years, as I have fought my whole life to prove to myself and everyone else that I am indeed good enough….now the question is at what expense?
Truth is that for me this syndrome has to lead me to seek a certain level of perfectionism, which is stifling and self-limiting, which in turn keeps me from living life spontaneously and playfully, which is indeed my heart’s desire. Enough already, pardon the pun.
The journey to self-acceptance, self-awareness, and self-love is an interesting and somewhat difficult experience, but it is worth the work and the deep soul searching it requires. The great news is that belief patterns can be challenged and rewritten, but as always the first step is recognizing and becoming deeply aware of the belief pattern that you have adopted as your truth. The hard part about recognizing belief patterns is remembering that just because you believe it to be your truth doesn’t mean it is true. Humbling isn’t it? Once discovered, it is taking a look at how it has served you over time and then determining whether it continues to serve you from a self-accepting and self-love perspective. If the answer is no, then it is time to rewrite the agreement to more positively reflect your actual truth. Then it is time for action, start running a new self-talk tape today with your new agreement. Doing so takes a conscious effort and deciding to become aware of your thinking several times a day is imperative to your success…..because the old tape is lurking and ready to play whenever you will allow it to surface.
Today, I know that I am good enough, I accept myself as I am with all the imperfections that being human brings me. What a journey to self-love it has been. What has your journey to self-love been like?
Written by: Cella Hartline